As Long as I Know You: The Mom Book with Anne-Marie Oomen

Wednesday, October 19, 2022 - 7:00pm

Schuler Books
2660 28th Street SE 
Grand Rapids, MI 49512

Anne-Marie Oomen is back with a new memoir, one that nearly every woman can relate to - addressing the oft fraught relationship between a mother and daughter, how to handle elder care, and the ultimate dissembling of a life.

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About the Book
Writer Pam Houston once summed it up: "Nice mother-daughter stories are a dime a dozen; pain-in-the-ass mother-daughter stories are the ones that grab us." As Long as I Know You is a compelling read for any adult grappling with a living elder who might also be a pain in the ass, particularly, any reader who wants a tender take on the lethal combination of dementia and defiance.

As Long as I Know You narrates Anne-Marie Oomen's journey to finally knowing her mother as well as the heartbreaking loss of her mother's immense capacities. It explores how humor and compassion grow belatedly between a mother and daughter who don't much like each other. It's a personal map to find a mother who may have been there all along, then losing her again in the time of Covid. As the millions of women like Oomen's mother reach their elder years and become the "oldest of the old," their millions of daughters (and sometimes sons) must come on board, involved in care they may welcome the way they'd welcome hitting a pothole the size of a semi. How a family makes decisions about that pothole, how care continues or does not, how possessions are addressed--really, no one wants the crockpot--and how the relationship shifts and evolves (or not), that story is universal.


About the Author:
Anne-Marie Oomen’s forthcoming book As Long as I Know You: The Mom Book  won AWP’s  Sue William Silverman Nonfiction Award (University of Georgia Press, 2022). Other titles include The Lake Michigan Mermaid (with poet, Linda Nemec Foster, Michigan Notable Book 2019),  Love, Sex and 4-H, (Next Generation Indie Award for memoir); Pulling Down the Barn and House of Fields, (Michigan Notable Books)—all focused on rural culture; An American Map: Essays, and a collection of poetry, Uncoded Woman (Milkweed Editions).  

She edited Elemental, A Collection of Michigan Nonfiction (Michigan Notable Book), and Looking Over My Shoulder: Reflections on the Twentieth Century (A Michigan Humanities Council Project). She has written seven plays, including award-winning Northern Belles (inspired by oral histories of women farmers), and Secrets of Luuce Talk Tavern, winner of the CTAM contest.  

She is founding editor of Dunes Review, former president of Michigan Writers, Inc., and serves as instructor at Solstice MFA in Creative Writing at Lasell University (MA) and at Interlochen College of Creative Arts.  She appears at conferences throughout the country.  She and her husband, David Early, built their own home on wild acreage near Empire, Michigan, and their beloved Lake Michigan.  

About the Conversation Partner:

Linda Nemec Foster has published twelve collections of poetry including Amber Necklace from Gdansk (finalist for the Ohio Book Award), Talking Diamonds (finalist for ForeWord Magazine’s Book of the Year in Poetry), and The Lake Michigan Mermaid (2019 Michigan Notable Book) which was created with co- author Anne-Marie Oomen and artist Meridith Ridl. Her work appears in magazines and journals such as The Georgia Review, Nimrod, New American Writing, North American Review, Witness, Verse Daily, and the Best Small Fictions Anthology 2022. She has received nominations for the Pushcart Prize and awards from the Arts Foundation of Michigan, National Writer’s Voice, Dyer-Ives Foundation, The Poetry Center (NJ), Fish Anthology (Ireland), and the Academy of American Poets. In 2021 her poetry book, The Blue Divide, was  published by New Issues Press. A forthcoming collection of prose poetry and flash fiction, Bone Country, will be published in 2023. The first Poet Laureate of Grand Rapids (2003-2005), Foster is the founder of the Contemporary Writers Series at Aquinas College.

As Long as I Know You: The Mom Book By Anne-Marie Oomen Cover Image
ISBN: 9780820362540
Availability: On Our Shelves Now. Click on title for location specific availability.
Published: University of Georgia Press - September 1st, 2022